Rejection sucks!

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The word rejection is a word that is a negative word that most of us do not want to deal with,but is there a way to create positivity around it?

‘’No” “Not this time around” “I regret to…” “Sorry” 

Hello sister, how do you take rejection? 

Do you cry your eyes out? Do you feel like a loser,hopeless,rejected?” “Why me?”

You literally turn on your television, check your Instagram, Facebook, or your email, see another amazing news and you wonder why it was not you? Sometimes, you internalize it so much you wonder what your freaking worth is!!!

Then you turn on the radio and a sappy love song is playing and you really wonder what why nothing seems to go well with you. You wait religiously with no call back regarding an audition or a job. Life must truly suck! Rejection ugh! You call your friends and they go on and on about their perfect lives!!! Why you??

As hard as rejection is, have you wondered how another person has felt when you got a promotion, received your clean bill of health, or even got invited to a party? Rejection is a part of life which we will all face at different points in our lives. As a woman who juggles so many roles, rejection has allowed me to think creatively outside the box and made me a fighter who a times sheds a tear. Rejection has also brought me closer to people I never knew I could draw my strength from. Yes, despite  how I may feel, it has pushed me to think how I can make my situation better.

Rejection does not make you worthless and a failure. I hope you can rise above it and be surrounded by positive people who will allow you to cry, talk, and eventually push you to be the best you can ever be. Motivational books can also be a great tool in encouraging your about the weakness and strength of others who overcame rejection.

How are you feeling about that sister? Break a leg and be extraordinary! Smile like you do not care!!!

 

Shades of Beauty

Am I beautiful enough? Am I worth it? They laughed at me because I was dark, albino, because I had acne, because I was skinny, fat, bald, flat chested, busty, hairy, because I did not fit in.

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These are some snippets of stories that I have heard speaking to girls and women in my day to day interactions when I have brought up the topic of beauty. As a woman I can totally relate, and I have cried and emoted my feelings with some of you  in accepting what true beauty is. Our color, our hair, our hips, our height, etc should not be the measure of our self-worth and beauty.
Why bleach your beautiful skin or subject it to surgery to look like somebody else? I want my sisters reading this to feel beautiful each day. Wake up each day glowing like a queen and smelling like your best perfume even after you hit the gym, chase your kids, or after a long day at work!

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This is why being nominated as one of finalist for Shades of Beauty Expo in Minnesota 2018 is an honor and a celebration for every woman. Yes!!! I see you in me and hope I represent both your struggles and strength! Just like some of you reading there were times I doubted my beauty and felt I had to look and think a certain way. I love every part of me both inner and outer and I walk confidently. I am grateful for believing in me and allowing me to use my platform to inspire women of all shades of beauty to explore and redefine what true beauty is; self love!

I will love to interact, laugh, and of course take pictures with you all celebrating our shades of beauty because we are all truly beautiful on Aug 11, 2018 at the St Paul River Center.

I love to hear your comments!

 

The Power Of A Strong Network

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How powerful is your network?
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I will love to read your comments so we can continue this chat
Dress: Soprano Clothing at Nordstrom Rack
Jewelry: Fair Anita
Makeup: Mac Cosmetics
Styled: StylishMomNurse

I know my worth, how about you?

Global fashion

It’s been a while readers and I cannot wait to share with you what I have been preparing for you all. I have been connecting with different people from all walks of life. I have learned so much and obviously enjoyed the camaraderie. This has also allowed me to learn more, made new friendships, and helped me embrace my role as an influencer while enjoying different eateries in Minnesota  lol (I love good food!!!).
What does it mean to be an influencer? To most people, it means having a super enormous following or being a famous celebrity. However, I am reminded about the true meaning of an influencer by my parents who etched it into me that if I am able to impact one person with my deeds and words, I have influenced a village. I remember asking why and they went on to inform me the power of word of mouth by that individual.

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This is powerful and encourages me to be an ambassador for women and young girls who a times feel they do not have the power to change their situations due to circumstances in their lives. We sometimes crave for belonging by being connected to groups, people, or a career in the hopes of being an influencer when our uniqueness, struggles, and eventually our untapped strengths needs to be resurrected.
Yes, resurrected because we are all influencers in our own right and it up to you to elevate yourself and know your worth. I cannot stress self-evaluating yourself and writing the little positive vibes you emit to your community. Your worth is not measured by your bank account, your friends, relationship status, or even your career!
What small steps do you plan on taking to positively influence those around you?

Dress: Miranda Konstantinidou

Necklace: Laurie Luehmann

Boutique: Dugo

Headpiece: Karen Morris Millinery

Photographer: Shutterkat

Boss Lady Style

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Have you ever wondered if your fashion taste  can have an effect on how you are perceived by your colleagues or strangers you encounter? Well, it does and it can either be to your advantage or your disadvantage.

Personally, first impressions count, therefore use each encounter outside your home to shine and be in boss lady style mode. Whether you work in corporate where you obviously choose what kind of professional clothes, a stay at home mom, an entrepreneur, or a fitness instructor you can still be stylish. This means,  do not conform to boring styles that everyone is wearing.

Try to incorporate a bit of your personality in what you wear. If you love bright colors, you can try  colorful bracelets, necklaces, blouses or  pants. If you are a black woman with natural hair, instead of wearing a boring wig, you  can  wear your hair in braids, corn rows, an afro wig, or try other protective styling. There are also scarves and headgear options too.Hair bands, extensions, or flowers are other fun ways to style your hair no matter you cultural or socioeconomic background.

For those of you who work in professions where you are uniformed,you are probably thinking that you cannot show your boss lady style. This is quite the contrary! Guess what? You are equipped with many fashionable weapons to strike with lol. Your shoes can be your fashion statement.

You have  unlimited fun and stylish shoe options from clogs to sneakers. I am all about clogs with style! Your watch, Fitbit, stethoscope, lab coat can be your fashion statement. For those of you who have to cover your heads  such as in the operating room or wear head covering for religious purposes, there are amazing fashionable and colorful surgical caps and hijabs  to wear. There is always a way to show up in style while looking professional.

No matter where you work , try these tips as you step out ready to rule like a boss lady :

  1. Make sure your clothes are well pressed
  2. Invest in some good shoes
  3. Invest in a quality work bag
  4. Wear shoes that fit
  5. Practice good personal hygiene
  6. Treat yourself to a spa occasionally
  7. Walk with your head held high

Outfit  by dugo         Photography by e.l. photography

Are you in #bosslady mode yet? Leave your comments

 

To hustle or not???#ceolife

For most of us, a paycheck is used even before it is deposited in your bank account. Lol!! This is the reason some of us get creative and find ways to save up, get side hustles and save up some more. I live with the motto that I learned from my dad that “Work hard when you have dark hair, aka when young so that you can relax when you are older.” This means the blood of hustling has been instilled in me from when I was young. I also tend to rock with other women hustlers who are driven and stylish!

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I was that kid who had a piggy bank and saved while my siblings will go buy candy lol. Yes siblings if you are reading, your big sis just told on you hahahaha!! Anyway as I got older, I received a bachelor’s degree in nursing, but never forgot my creative side and use that as my side hustle. For those of you reading my blog for the first time, I grew up in Ghana, West Africa before moving to the USA more than a decade ago. I was that kid who had exotic dreams and believed I could do anything I set my mind to.

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My side hustle as a model and blogger has allowed me to get rid of my fear of rejections and given me the courage to market and believe in myself. When I receive my check and see the finished work, it gives me the extra confidence to believe in my hustle. I also constantly see how people who look like me are not represented more in the media and I wonder what kind of role models my kids and other little kids will see. Will they have to wonder if they are worthy to be in the creative world? The side hustle belongs to all no matter your color, height, or socio economic background. A times I wonder why do people of color like me constantly have to fight to get noticed? I really appreciate my agencies,family,friends and community who see my worth!

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I know so many times people are scared to take that leap of faith because they want everything certain. However, hustlers are risk takers and I believe you need to take some risks in order to make it. Yep, that means there will be many low points when you wonder why you are doing it, why people want to under value your craft, and when your time will come!!!Ding ding ding dong!!! Do you need an alcoholic beverage or some tea/coffee yet?? Lol…The struggle hehehe. Keep the hustle on because even if you have not received your limelight, there are side fans or critics who are either secretly rooting for you or waiting for you to fall flat. Now are you still feeling that you need to keep your hustle going??Inspired? Connect with me on your next project! Comment below

Model Photography :Lucy Stange

Accepting my natural short hair!

“Why don’t you just relax your hair? It will so much easier for you to comb your hair” This was what I heard all too often when I started my natural hair journey. I started not knowing if I was ready to face the world that had never glorified natural hair. Growing up in Ghana, I went to a school where I had to cut down my relaxed hair from Grade 7 through 12. I can still remember how I tried to bargain with my mom to change schools so I could attend one where I could keep my hair relaxed and long. As a child, I can remember my dad was not happy when he came home and found out that my mom had relaxed my sister and mine hair to fit in. Yes, my dad loved the afro of the 70s and he loved natural hair. My mom on the other hand like women of her era felt femininity, professional acceptance, and being more European was linked to long, silky flowy hair wither with a wig, weave, or relaxed was the ultimate goal.

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My teen years went by well with my short natural hair, but it was acceptable because most of my friends kept their hair natural too. After high school, I however could not wait to get my hair relaxed and add extensions to have it long and full. As a teen, I felt all the boys liked the girls with long, flowy hair. The media and the community I lived in both Ghana and the USA seemed to accord women with long hair as being beautiful as opposed to those with natural, short, coiled hair. The pageant world, magazines, and television also placed women with long flowing weaves on a high pedestal and I did not want to be left out. I could have saved thousands of dollars from all the weaves and time spent in salons to get my hair bone straight or with full Brazilian human hairweave.

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I had no role models who had taken that journey to be natural. I realized after years of straightening and manipulation, my edges were thinning and I was spending so much on my hair to get it to look right. I needed to find something that was truly unique to me and have the option to change my hairstyle because I wanted to, not because I had to conform. The hair transition to getting my relaxed hair chopped was like being born a new and I never turned back. I must say I was still worried how the world would accept it and Boy it was liberating to rock my natural short hair. I felt free, authentic, and an influencer. I fully embraced my natural kinky and heavily coiled short hair and started wearing it more without extensions 3 years ago and I have seen more women come up to me at work and in the community compliment me on my hair.

They are amazed I can confidently switch my hairstyle. Anyway,I still get asked questions at work from my mostly caucasian colleagues about how my hair grew from one week to another since I do a times do wash and gos, twists, and protective styles such as box braids,natural hair weave styles, and crotchet braids hahaahaha! I am especially happy that I continue to see more black women transitioning to natural hair styles and being confident and beautiful. Guess what? my mom also transitioned to natural hair and she loves it!woohoo!!!

Photography:E.L.Photography

Jewelry &Clothing:Styleagogo